NLP Practitioners - Understanding What They Do

By Anthony Wilson

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) was founded in the early 1970's but is only now becoming part of the mainstream. While mainstream psychotherapy may still question the validity of the methodology behind NLP, devotees sing its praises - hailing it as a truly unique and highly effective approach to behavioral therapy.

By focusing on the idea that we create our own mental disorders and stand in the way of our own success, NLP teaches change from within. Instead of merely trying to sedate the symptoms of a problem, NLP seeks to attack the root cause and find a solution. Not satisfied with just producing temporary results, NLP practitioners hope to deliver long term results for their patients and free them from a wide variety of problems holding the patient back from reaching their full potential.

One of the most revolutionary applications of the NLP method is the treatment of phobias. By recognizing that phobias are likely the result of a negative program buried in the patient's subconscious, NLP practitioners will uncover that program and replace it with a positive one. In this case, the program likely took root in the form of a traumatic event that either happened to the patient or the patient heard about at a very young age. To correct the phobia, the NLP practitioner must change the patient's programmed response to a trigger - which, in the case of phobia would be whatever stimuli causes the fearful reaction - to something more positive. This is usually done through anchoring.

With anchoring, the NLP practitioner finds the program - the memory that causes the fearful feelings - and helps the patient anchor it to another, more pleasant stimulus. This can take a bit of work on the parts of both the practitioner and the patient, but by doing this, when the patient is introduced to the trigger - the thing of which they are afraid - the subconscious program no longer causes the patient to react with fear. Although the anchor does not usually create an overly positive reaction, as that would be another sort of inappropriate emotional reaction, the anchor usually provides the patient with a sense of calm. They may still be afraid, but it will be a manageable fear and with practice that fears will be reduced even more.

NLP also promotes a more positive self dialogue. It is perfectly natural to talk to yourself. Everyone does it. The problem is; most people use this important inner dialogue to reinforce a negative self image. It is extremely difficult to achieve a goal, or even work up the courage to pursue that goal, if you are constantly telling yourself you will fail. NLP teaches you how to foster a more healthy self-image and back that up with positive self dialogue. - 31985

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Fundamental teachings of NLP

By Ethan Brown

Neuro-Linguistic Programming is a form of psychotherapy that seeks to help patients have a better understanding of themselves and change negative thought patterns that lead to negative behaviors. Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or NLP, operates around the core principal that every person has subconscious programming in their mind that causes the person to react to certain stimulus in certain ways. By changing this programming, NLP practitioners believe they are able to turn negative reactions to positive ones. All it takes is a change in perspective.

NLP practitioners don't try to treat the symptoms of the surface of negative behaviors or mental disorders, but rather find the root cause of the problem and remedy that. NLP practitioners listen carefully to what patients say to identify any subconscious clues the patient is giving as to the true nature of the problem. NLP practitioners ask targeted questions so not to allow the patient to use deletion or omission when answering questions. By doing this, NLP practitioners are better able to explore the patient's subconscious and identify problems.

The major focus of NLP is to help people have a greater self-awareness and understand that most of the limitations they see as being part of their life are in actuality only a matter of perception. By eliminating self-defeating, self-limiting and negative thoughts, NLP can open the mind to see the bigger picture. By promoting healthy inner dialogue NLP can help you realize that the biggest problem with trying to reach a goal is telling yourself that you can't.

NLP also arms you with the tools you need to more effectively communicate. This is a great asset to anyone in a field that requires they deal with the public on a regular basis. By learning how to read people - one of the fundamental teachings of NLP - you are better able to judge whether or not the person you are speaking to is not just hearing your words, but understands the meaning behind them. NLP also teaches you how to adjust your posture, body language and tone of voice to better fit the situation you're in. By adjusting these things to match the person you're conversing with, you create a sort of connection that helps them not only understand you better but also helps make them feel you are understanding them as well.

NLP can also be used to help a wide variety of mental disorders such as habit disorders, learning disabilities, phobias and even depression. Teachers are employing the methodology behind NLP to help their students feel more confident and overcome learning disabilities.

Over NLP teaches several effective ways to prove just about every aspect of your life and help you live your life to the fullest. - 31985

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Success With NLP

By Michael Johnsons

Phobias can be a debilitating problem that can rule your entire life. For some people the phobia is of spiders, snakes, heights or things of that nature. Those phobias, while troublesome can have limited effect on the sufferer's life as a whole since the trigger of the phobia can be avoided. Other phobias can have a much more severe effect on the day to day life of the person suffering from the phobia.

Sometimes these phobias are severe enough to prevent the patient from living a normal, productive life and in extreme cases, even prevent the patient from leaving their own home. The most common example of this level of debilitating phobia agoraphobia which is a fear of leaving a safe place, often the home, or being in an open or crowded public place. This phobia, when at its most severe can make the patient completely unable to leave their own home limiting work and social potential.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or NLP, has the potential of helping patients overcome their phobias by exposing the root of the problem and working to correct it. The NLP practitioner will work with the patient by actively listening to their responses to targeted questions and asking further questions to get to the bottom of why people react the way they do to the stimulus in question. If the fear is of public places, as in the case of agoraphobia, the stimulus would be the outside world. This is often the toughest phobia to tackle as the root cause may be very difficult to pinpoint.

NLP centers around the idea that many of the mental disorders most commonly suffered are not in fact the result of chemical imbalances and therefore do not need to be medicated. The belief is that these disorders - phobias for the purpose of this article - are caused by subconscious signals in the brain that we have had programmed into our minds by past experiences or learned beliefs, ideals and values. These programs are so deeply engrained that we aren't even aware that they're there. NLP seeks to help reprogram our minds to help us live happier, fuller lives.

For anyone suffering from a phobia it may seem like it's just part of life that has to be dealt with. In reality that isn't true. By working with a NLP practitioner and identifying the underlying cause behind the phobia, you can change the way you react to that fear and therefore free yourself of the phobia completely. - 31985

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First Date Hypnosis

By Richard Brus

On a coffee date there is a couple of good ways to flirt. One such way is using a technique called Seductive Hypnotic Descriptions or SHD's. By talking about certain topics you can easily incorporate this technique within the context of your conversations. SDH's will cause women to subliminally experience the feelings necessary for them to feel attraction. The most important factor when building a connection with her that is based in sexual tension is how you can make her feel.

Seductive Hypnotic Descriptions work by incorporating certain words within the context of a story or description. These normal words have the possibility to be subliminally misinterpreted by the woman's subconscious mind. Normal words like 'wet' and 'hard' or 'smooth' and 'sensitive' all have connotations of sexuality attached to them. If you incorporate these words within a story you tell whilst speaking in a smooth seductive tone and rhythm, magic can happen.

Often women will reciprocate a question back to you and this is where you would use SHD's. You need to get the woman to ask you a particular question so you can use your SHD's and the easiest way to do this is to ask her the same question first.

The way to use this technique is to talk about a subject that lends itself to the possibility of you describing how you feel or think about something using a SHD. Asking a woman about the details of her very first kiss will sound strange to her if you don't lay the proper foundations for the question first. You might start by asking her where she went to school. Then you can ask her if she remembers what grade she was in when she had her very first boyfriend. From there it becomes much easier and somewhat natural to ask her a question like, "so does that mean you remember what your very first real kiss was like...?"

These kinds of questions allow her to relive the exciting romantic feelings she experienced while she is describing her first kiss to you. As she is telling you about her first kiss she will to some degree be experiencing those feelings whilst she is in your company. And the more she experiences those emotions around you, the more she'll become attracted to you. Questions like these also give you a great opportunity to use 'seductive hypnotic descriptions' to tell her about your first kiss when she reciprocates your question and asks you, "Do you remember your first kiss?"

This is when you can use a Seductive Hypnotic Description. An example might be, "...My first kiss I can definitely remember...we both ran under this big tree because it was raining and everywhere was wet...but even though I was wet, it wasn't hard to give in to the moment...I remember her how soft her lips were and how easy and natural it felt to be kissing her...even as we kissed droplets of rain fell onto our faces and wet our lips...and even though I was wet, the kiss warmed up my whole body...and that's why it's hard to forget..."

Now a lot of words in the above description can be associated with sexuality however they are not being used in that context. What gives a SHD its influence is the social innuendo that is attached to those words. When using words like these the sentences can become slightly confusing and this is what allows those suggestive words to bypass her conscious filters.

The actual tone and seductive rhythm you're using has to be very subtle and barely noticeable. The best way to achieve this is to just allow the pause in between the sentences to be just slightly longer than the usual length.

You can't overdo this method of seduction as it works best in small doses only. Your first date with a woman should be a short 40 minute coffee date. You wouldn't use any more than two SDH's in that time period. You'll definitely have to practice SHD's by yourself until you come up with a few good ones that you can use naturally. Think of the question that you want her to ask you and then ask her that same question after you've laid down the foundations to ask such a question. When she reciprocates the question you'll have you're perfectly rehearsed SHD to respond with. SHD's should only be one of the six flirting methods that you would use on a first date such as a coffee date. - 31985

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10 Unrealistic And Exceptional Phobias

By Andy D Gallagher

People have fears of many kinds like that of height, death, water, clouds, fight etc., but this fear, when becomes unreasonable and excessive, transforms in to a phobia. It depends upon your nerves as to when you lose self-control and become unable to compose yourself. This fear of a certain thing beyond sanity is called Phobia.

Phobia is an intense, irrational and constant fear of certain things, situations, activities or even people. This is a mental disorder, which, if not overcome, disturbs the personal, social and economic life of an individual; it might be rooted to a traumatic situation, which one cannot overcome.

It is logical enough to have fear for things, which are realistic, but there are certain strange phobias of everyday things that people develop. These are mostly harmless, and become unstoppable. A list of top ten strange and non-realistic phobias is as follows:

Ablutophobia

People, especially women and children, have this constant habit of bathing, washing, and cleaning, which becomes a phobia. This habit becomes continuous, because they are not sensitively established.

Chorophobia

Dancing is an expression of joy and cheerfulness; can anyone be fearful of dancing? Yes, people have this phobia too!

Koumpounophobia

Buttons are things, which we would think no one would have fear of, but some people are afraid of them, and other things such as coins, discs, which are similar to buttons.

Arachibutyrophobia

Who would be afraid of peanut butter attached to the top of their mouth? Yes, many people prefer swallowing peanut butter rather than chewing it.

Phobophobia

A psychological disorder of having a phobia for developing some phobia is also quite common. It is quite fascinating and hilarious.

Estiophobia

A very strange phobia is estiophobia; fear of clothes. The sufferers are not afraid of the all kind of clothes but of a certain type and material. Moreover, it is found in people who are fat and middle aged; they think that clothes make them look shabbier.

Caligynephobia

Can you imagine anyone being scared of the beauty? Yes, there are many people who fear beautiful women, this is called caligynephobia. This can be found in adolescent children and men who might not have straight orientation.

Scopophobia

Scopophobia is the fear of being looked at; it is a real weird one as everyone looks at someone at some point in time. Hence, it might lead to social cut-off of the sufferer.

Euphobia

Strangely, there are people who have a fear for listening to good news because not only they cannot hear it, but also they are scared that some bad news might follow it.

Allodoxaphobia

Hearing opinions from other people about their own personality, job, home, features, etc. is another phobia that people might have since they are afraid about someone passing comments about them. - 31985

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Can Life Coaching Help Me To Achieve My Dreams?

By Andy D Gallagher

A person assigned to help you with various issues in your daily life is called a life coach. To help the clients achieve whatever goals in life they have is the purpose of life coaching. Besides that, they also help in getting their clients through a difficult phase in their lives.

All kinds of people can seek the services of a life coach. One could be on a very prestigious post and one could be a total professional failure; that does not matter. What matters is your need for someone to guide you for direction and support. A life coach can give you pointers about things, like a career change or regarding difficult decisions in your life.

Furthermore, your role can also differ. For instance, it can be a mother or a housewife who needs help regarding her life pattern. Also, you can be someone who is seeking a positive, more cheerful outlook towards life, with which a life coach can help you. The problems that a life coach can solve are of every nature and kind.

Life coaching can basically be divided into two basic categories. The first category is personal life coaching, which helps you with the issues of your personal life. If you are at a certain crossroads in your life where you think you need help deciding what to do next, and what step to take, a life coach can help you decide the best option. Similarly, if you think you lack certain personality traits such as confidence, and strength, then you can hire a life coach who can help you achieve this.

There is also professional life coaching. Sometimes, there is lack of motivation and a need to switch careers. That is where a life coach can help you weigh the pros and cons of each decision. Also, a life coach can help you enhance your performance and effectiveness. Not just that, he/she can help you gain extra confidence and a drive to excel. Hence, a life coach can be a great professional helper.

To achieve your dreams, a life coach could be very helpful. Be those life purposes or goals, hiring a life coach can be very helpful in the fulfilment of that particular aim or purpose. With the help and guidance of a life coach, we can facilitate our dreams to the shade of reality, something that we seldom deemed possible.

The strain and tension of everyday life leaves very little time for one to pursue personal dreams. In the course of this fight for survival, potentials happen to get wasted. A life coach can solve this problem by organizing the schedule of his/her client in a way that helps them balance the strings of their responsibilities. This is complemented by working on the motivation factor and pumping more optimism in the outlook.

Nowadays, coaching has become a popular profession, and there are many life coaches, which you can hire for their services. You can either find one through reference, or through the internet, or hire them to help you achieve your life dreams. - 31985

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A Way to Prompt Hypnosis

By Christopher Cohen

To hypnotise someone and move the person into a state of subconscious relaxation is maybe more interesting and exciting an experience than getting hypnotized yourself. It needs a lot of patience and practice to be ready to prompt hypnosis and use it successfully.

It takes both the hypnotist and his subject to take part equally to be ready to achieve the specified results. In case the topic is unhappy to let go control of his consciousness, and allow himself to drift away into relaxation, it might obstruct the work of the hypnotist. Therefore , before starting to hypnotise a subject, it's necessary to clear all misconceptions patients usually carry about hypnosis, like they'll fall asleep or give out their secrets. It is imperative to build trust between the topic and the hypnotist. The topic should be sure that the sole point of hypnotising him is that his mind would receive the message better in that state and respond more positively. Once the topic is prepared, the process of hypnotism begins.

The subject should be seated in a comfortable position, uncross his arms and legs, wear loose clothes, and breathe deep. The room should preferably be quiet and dimly lit for better concentration. The hypnotist should speak in a steady, controlled, monotone voice, repeating phrases and getting the topic to sail smoothly and effortlessly together with hypnotist's voice. Instructions like, breathe deeply, let go, relax forget your fears and tensions, you are perfectly relaxed now, deeper, higher etc are quite dynamic in achieving the desired results. The hypnotist can intensify usefulness of his technique by stroking the limbs, and talking slowly, permitting sufficient time for each instruction to sink in. At no point of time should the hypnotist force himself upon the subject and annoy the thoroughly purchased subconscious state of the topic. In case, the specified results aren't achieved in the 1st attempt, a patient 2nd attempt should be made.

When the topic has been brought under hypnotism, exercise utmost care as this experience can be terrifying or unnerving for some. It's required to make the topic feel secure. Comforting phrases like do not worry, you are completely safe, everything's fine, you are in safe hands can help a hypnotist claim control without scaring the subject.

When bringing back the topic to awakened conscious, hypnotist must be equally careful. Don't jerk the topic out of his state of relaxation. Again, go slow, count form one to 5 and lead the topic out of his subconsciousness. Keep telling the topic that he is going to feel far better, fresh, energetic and revamped.

Across the process, the subject shouldn't get even the smallest inkling of any hesitancy or shortage of confidence on the part of the hypnotist. The topic must feel that the hypnotist is perfectly in control, that he won't permit any harm to come to the topic. Only then does the subject give up control and surrender himself totally to the hypnotist. Therefore to prompt hypnosis, hypnotist should have ultimate self-esteem in his capability and craft. Only then can he achieve successful induction. .

How Can Hypnosis Help You? - 31985

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